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Remarkable Wonderment

Posted By cheekyredhead on Jun 21, 2009 at 3:52PM

Do you think others see you quite differently as you see yourself? As time has past I know I view myself as my much younger self. In my mind I am still that 20 year old that danced on SoulTrain---SO many years ago. My children cannot imagine me ever being that cool. I wish I had pictures of it.

As children we looked at everything with wonderment and awe. Perhaps we just need to give ourselves permission to release those dreams we once had, the hopes and desires that so often get waylaid by what life tosses in our path. Who or what is in our way...limitations self-imposed or constraints we allow to define us, we can change those things. It only demands an active choice.

Given the opportunity to choose right now, what would you choose? Can you see yourself conquering that hill, losing that weight, learning to dance, getting a degree, or moving across to the other side of the world? If we can visualize it, we can choose to accomplish it. Whatever your choice may be, it ultimately will be to do whatever it is in a remarkable way. Why remarkable? Being remarkable IS doing everything the best you can offer and affecting those around you in a positive way.

When we look at life with a renewed view firmly within wonderment, we can't help but strive to be remarkable. When we do everything remarkably well then we also tend to rub off on others. Wonderment and being remarkable is contagious. It immediately sets us apart from the masses of people merely moving through life in a robotic fashion. They will want to know your secret, because we all secretly want to be remarkable.

I am here to challenge you to do a few things...not all at once---maybe one a day---or one a week, and they are simple tiny things.

First: Make eye contact with everyone you meet and simply smile. Count the amount of smiles you get back.
Second: Decide to dedicate yourself to being the very best______that you can possibly be and do that. Be consistent and people will notice.
Third: Look for ways to help someone without personal gain. Why? If you do this you will know why, and sadly if you don't then you won't.

Wonderment and being remarkable are the keys to success in happiness. Doing these three things everyday will open paths you never thought possible. I would love to hear from you after you do this experiment. Consider it seriously---these are TINY things. Even if you only do them for one week you will notice a big change, and once you regain that feeling of wonderment, another remarkable thing about life will embrace you. Joy.

After that---I predict you will never stop doing these tiny three things. In fact, you will start looking for more ways to be remarkable. The interesting thing about this is that soon you will begin to see more options, more opportunities, and you will feel those limitations which had held you down all these years suddenly fall off of you. You will realize then that wonderment and being remarkable will show you the way to making your dreams come true.

I know this because I am filled with wonderment and awe. I am becoming more remarkable every day. So can you!

Glowing Dads and Grandpas

Posted By cheekyredhead on Jun 11, 2009 at 10:23PM

Glowing Dads and Grandpas
By: Cheekyredhead

“My goodness Ms. Jones! You make the best cup of tea!” was usually the phrase my grandpa would start off with as he sat down to our “pretend tea party,” usually on the front porch in the shade.

I am not sure that he knew how much that one little phrase immediately made me feel grown-up and special but it did make me feel special. Very special. So much so that I actually contemplated changing my name to “Jones” and then when I got older I noticed anyone named “Jones.” I still do.

Little girls seem to “shine” when they are around a grandfather or dad and they show them any attention. I used to tell my husband that he had “special powers” and should he decide to use them for good—our daughter would perpetually glow. He would be famous. Unfortunately, he failed to see it as important.

From that small age, we women look to men to confirm we are good, beautiful, smart, and needed. If men only realized this! How many of us have heard a man say that if they could just understand a woman—they would have it made. They are clueless as to simple it really is.

Of course, many of us usually determine we do not “need” some man to confirm that we are beautiful, smart, or needed, but we admit it is nice. We move forward and “own” our lives, including others into our celebrations and successes. We also look backward and sometimes wistfully hope that, at some point, one of the men in our lives saw us glow.

My father, like many of my generation, worked long hours and we saw him late in the evening just before bed. We were taught to be polite—seen and not heard. On the weekends, we gave him a wide birth—so he could unwind. My sisters and I, we often stood to the side, wishing he’d notice us ... yearning to glow.

Ironically, I spent a large portion of my youth feeling like a failure. Not because I was one—but because my dad had not declared that I wasn’t one. He didn’t realize I needed that. I spent a lot of time wondering why I needed it.

Once at a business event, my dad introduced me to one of the businessmen he worked with and the man jumped up and shook my hand saying, “Your father is so proud of you! He constantly brags about you!” Tears leaped out of my eyes and I had to leave. A perfect stranger knew my father was proud of me before I did.

See ... men really are clueless. My dad was. He had no idea why I cried. Ultimately, I discovered that he brags about all of us. Imagine that. Our dad is proud of all of us. We had no idea ... we were clueless too.

My sisters and I measured ourselves against each other, something siblings normally do. I never felt I measured up against them. One was SO much smarter than me, the other SO much more pretty than I ever would be. None of us seemed to realize that we were special in different ways ... that we all glowed at times we never thought possible. We were clueless too.

Maturity brings with it some clarity. I see things differently than I did when I had such a narrow-minded vision of youth. I see my siblings differently now—I appreciate them each for who they are, proud of their accomplishments, and how smart and beautiful they are. There is no competition for Dad, we have our own husbands now—our very own men to make us glow.

Dad is no longer clueless. He has had time to reflect. He and I have managed to heal old hurts. Time has shown him those great powers to make people “glow.” He gave me a book recently, The Shack, and I read it cover-to-cover. That was a wonderful gift! With that book I gained new appreciation for the phrase, “I am particularly fond of you.” It is the phrase God would say to each of us if we chose to listen.

Now I say, “Dad, I am particularly fond of you too.” It feels so good to say that.
That was not easy to say. The thing is you see ... I have been clueless for a very long time ... clueless that my dad needed that same affirmation, that he is loved and needed. We had moved into our own lives, leaving dad or grandpa suddenly stuck in a place they never expected to be ... waiting to the side of our lives ... waiting for time to glow.

Mom says Dad has been a different man since he read that book, The Shack. She often thinks someone came and stole away her husband and left behind an angel. Dad is still Dad. He is just now aware of what is needed by every person, making efforts to make up for all the old “dull” moments and reveal the “glow” we need. Appreciation is the secret. Being particularly fond of you is at the center of it.

Dads and grandpas are not perfect. We are not perfect. Nobody is. Father’s Day is soon upon us. I hope to find that we all are shining, glowing faces ... each realizing how much we mean to each other. It is time to let those in our lives know that we love them, that they are needed, and that we are proud of them. It is time to glow and time to shine! You see ... I am particularly fond of all of you.

First published June 2009, divinecaroline.com


Posted By cheekyredhead on Jun 6, 2009 at 8:44PM

As a Mom, I watched the world explode into new realities thru the eyes of my children when they were very young. Possibilities were endless. Witnessing many of the "firsts" with them was a thing of wonderment.

Now older, I still challenge myself to continue to experience "firsts" in my own life. Last year I became a certified scuba diver, something which has changed my life.

The wonderment you experience under the sea, swimming in the silence of the deep waters, your awareness of your heartbeat and the sound of your breathing is the sound of life. You become one with the sea, captured by its seemingly endless expanse, your life has new meaning.

Since then I have decided not to allow age to hinder my exploits and adventures. I have become a one-woman force to encourage people to NOT buy trinkets stolen from the sea, the evidence of life, mere skeletons adorning people like the bones around a native's neck.

Most people do not know that coral is a LIVING CREATURE and that creature allows other creatures to make it their home. When fishing trawlers scrape the bottom of the sea with thier nets or unscrupulous thieves rape the sea bottom for trinkets---they leave behind damage that takes many years for the sea to recover.

I hope that my children will be able to see all the wonders of the sea. We must protect it. As sea life dies, so does the circle of life. Our life depends on the wonderment found in our oceans. It should be protected and viewed in its natural habitat. Not a trinket - the skeleton of a sea creature - collecting dust on a shelf. Please leave it in the ocean.